You Might Be Sabotaging Your Career Without Realizing It -

You Might Be Sabotaging Your Career Without Realizing It -If youre talented, skilled, and putting your all into your career but bedrngnis rising as fast as others in the company or in your peer group, you might be wondering just what the problem is. According to Shaun Belding, CEO of The Belding Group of Companies and author of Journey to WOW, the problem might be that you have a reputation as a negative person around the office.You might not even be aware of your reputation. Why? Its pretty easy to be negative without realizing it, and Belding says there are two positivs that can creep their way into everyday vocabulary and cement your reputation No and Actually.Lets take a look at these two words, and how you can change your behaviors, improve your emotional intelligence, become mora self-aware, and hopefully get your career moving again.Say No to NoThere are always times in our lives when we are going to have to say no, whether thats at work, to family, or to friends. Even when yo u have to say no at work, though, you canand shoulddo it in a way that doesnt perpetually cast you in the role of Negative Nancy or Negative Ned.Belding explains that people might not even realize they are always saying nobecause they end up saying yes in the end. Think about it for a second. Do you ever find yourself telling a colleague that an idea is just not possible, only to have them keep explaining or offer a slight adaptation that you eventually say yes to? Have you ever been the colleague put in the position of continually being told no, only to be told it might actually work after all?If you consistently find yourself automatically replying no before offering other alternatives or asking more questions, people will just stop coming to youand they will not think of you as someone with their (or the companys) best interests in mind. And worse, you certainly wont be considered the go-to person.How can you change this?Dont make no your default anymore. Instead, Belding suggest s seeking more information about the project or offering an alternative. Dont start your sentence with nostart it with an affirmation or a question. As an example Thanks for bringing this idea to me what kind of resources do you think it would take to make it work?To keep this strategy top of mind, Belding recommends keeping the Rolling Stones in mindYou cant always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.If you ask questions, offer positive affirmation, and are open to working with people, youre likely to get them to a place where they get what they need from you and you are more likely to be seen as a positive, cooperative personnot just Dr. No.But, Actually Do you think of the word actually as a negative word? I really didnt until I spoke with Belding. He explained, though, that while the word itself isnt negative, it is nearly always used in a context that is. He calls this invisible language, as it provokes a negative emotion with out ever being outright negative.Think about it when someone replies to you with a sentence that begins, Well, actually you know what comes next is not going to make you feel better about yourself. Its most likely going to make you feel stupid, embarrassed, or at the very least, defensive.In the workplace, making people feel stupid is never good. It positions you as self-important and as a criticand both are a far cry from the team player that you must strive to be if you want to advance up the company ladder.There is never a benefit to making someone feel stupid, Belding emphasizes.So what can you do? Instead of reflexively saying, Actually , take a beat to consider how important the correction you are about to make is. Does it really need to be made? Belding says making a correction will often not be necessary, but if it is you can absolutely find ways to rephrase it so that people dont feel stupid. One alternative is, Have you thought about it this way?, or just following up wi th another question that gives you more information to work with as you reframe your correction.Do People Really Notice These Things in Corporate Americas High-Pressure World?In short, yes. Belding shared the story of a bright, insightful company vice president for whom Belding had a lot of respect. However, this particular person had a bad habit of always seeing the negativeand vocalizing it. Doing so in meetings became what he welches known for, and despite all his talent, the person was let goand this happened at two different jobs hed held. He didnt realize what he was doing until it was too late.Belding himself even unintentionally sabotaged his career through negativity. He was called out for it by a boss, but because the boss didnt use his name and Belding wasnt self-aware, he didnt put two and two together until years later. When he realized it, he was acutely embarrassed at how hed acted in the workplace. Dont let this happen to you assess your behavior now, and make the ne cessary changes.Although people notice negativity, the opposite is also truepeople notice positivity and enthusiasm. From the highest levels of the C-suite to the executive assistants at an organization, everyone ends up identifying the positive people who just make the day better and seem interested in helping out and improving the company overall.ConclusionBelding sums up the importance of a positive reputation like thisThe thing about success is you can be as skilled at your job as anyone in your world, but if you cant get along with people, then you are going to limit your job in so many ways.So if your career isnt moving as fast as youd like it to, take a step back, look in the mirror, and take a unterbrechung during workplace conversations and when drafting e-mails. You might be surprised at how often two seemingly innocuous words are creeping into your vocabulary and sabotaging your career.Emotional intelligence is more than a buzzwordits a path to success.Are you tired of yo ur resume being rejected by applicant tracking systems? I know how frustrating it is to submit your resume and receive no response. I hate seeing qualified people never breakthrough the screening process. It shouldnt be that way. Thats why I created this guide and I encourage you to download the FREE PDF so you can start seeing better resume response rates